The first thing you really should do is run the MOV file through the XPression Video Coder to convert them to an XPression Codec AVI file. These will play much better in XPression than an MOV file.
In order to achieve the behavior you want; you need to drag the Video Material onto a track on the scene director.
In the video material, do NOT enable the Autostart or Freerunning checkboxes (leave them unchecked). By dragging the video material onto the scene director, the video will now pause when the scene director pauses, and it will also move as you scrub the scene director.
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